"My mother is driving me crazy!" This phrase is often uttered (or screamed) by people who are taking care of elderly parents. The AgingCare.com message boards are filled with difficult behavior problems by elderly parents: stories of hallucinations, hoarding ... even abuse.
AgingCare.com, an online community for caregivers, compiled from our discussion boards the top difficult behaviors:
Abuse
Stories of mental, emotional, even physical abuse to the adult child are all-to-common. The elder turns on the one person who is showing the most love because they feel safe enough to do so.
What caregivers are saying:
"My elderly parents treat me like a whipping board."
Not showering
Elders who were once clean refuse to take showers, wear fresh clothes and take care of personal hygiene. A decreased sense of smell may be at fault. What your nose picks up as old sweat, they don't notice. Memory could be to blame. Without activities and appointments, days run together. There isn't something special about Wednesday – it could be Tuesday or Thursday – they lose track of time and don't realize how long it's been since they showered.
What caregivers are saying:
"Mom refuses to shower."
Swearing and foul language
Parents who used to be mild-mannered, proper, and would never utter a four-letter word suddenly curse like a trucker. When it happens in public, it's embarrassing; when it happens in private it's hurtful.
What caregivers are saying:
"My elderly father is making sexual innuendos."
Paranoia, hallucinations and strange obsessions
Paranoia and hallucinations take many forms, from accusing family members of stealing, seeing people who aren't there or believing someone is trying to murder them. Obsessions include: Saving tissues, constantly worrying if it's time to take medications and obsessively picking at their skin.
What caregivers are saying:
"Mom has an obsession with saving used tissues. She stashes them everywhere."
Hoarding
From hoarding old clothes to spoiled food, elderly people's homes and health are risk when hoarding problems exist.
What caregivers are saying:
"My mother hoards spoiled food"
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