I was 37 (in 2004) when my first shunt was placed in an emergency situation - although I had symptoms I was not diagnosed properly until it became a crisis situation. At the time I was married and also had assistance from my mother. I divorced in 2009 and have lived alone just fine since then. In my experience I had to work at getting my mental faculties restored, and I did this mostly by doing crossword puzzles and Sodoku - things I thought I couldn't do but eventually became quite good at. Jigsaw puzzles and learning new skills seem to help as well and these are things I continue to do. Anything that challenges your loved one is good to try. I'm not sure what will happen as I get older, but I'm hopeful that I can continue to do most of the things I do now. After my divorce I bought a fixer-upper and learned basic plumbing and electrical skills - I replaced toilets and vanities in two bathrooms and numerous switches, outlets, and light fixtures throughout my house. I also bought a miter saw and replaced some of the trim. I do my own yard work. Your loved one will be just fine. It sounds like he/she has been diagnosed early enough that they won't have to do as much to get back to normal as I did. I think you should help as needed if you can, but I don't think you need to worry about his/her independence unless they express a concern to you. I hope this is helpful to you.